tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20440617.post115852708447485715..comments2023-05-02T01:13:15.498-07:00Comments on Grace Undressed: crushingGracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13246990884639753146noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20440617.post-90591829438414580362009-06-16T07:52:42.826-07:002009-06-16T07:52:42.826-07:00Hi Grace, I stumbled across your blog and found it...Hi Grace, I stumbled across your blog and found it really fascinating. <br /><br />It has been great for me, a real wakeup call on the relationship between client and dancer. I also really loved your personal stuff and found it really thought provoking, and sometimes very beautiful.<br /><br />I wrote this yesterday afternoon to try and capture my feelings about being a customer at a lapdancing place last week.<br /><br />Not sure if you get much of this kind of stuff from readers, so feel free to publish or delete or leave in the comments or whatever. Or just ignore it and I will leave it out in the wild of the internet to grow weeds and die.<br /><br />I'd love your perspective, though, even if it's "grow up saddo"!<br /><br />http://responsetograce.blogspot.com/<br /><br />Cheers & best of luck with life.Peterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05055022594078125593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20440617.post-1158545064169297562006-09-17T19:04:00.000-07:002006-09-17T19:04:00.000-07:00In the old 'Kung Fu' TV series, Caine falls in lov...In the old 'Kung Fu' TV series, Caine falls in love once. He is told 'Acknowledge your desire, or it will have power over your.', but not to act on the (inappropriate) desire. I would think quiet time and meditating would be a really good thing. Figure out how much of the attraction is sexual energy (likely not much -- you have met Good Salesmen before, surely), and how much is social intercourse. That is, you had his attention, and he had yours. You may be sorting panties and briefs, but when was the last time you and your boyfriend spent four (4) hours with attention only for each other. With clothes on. Instead of worrying about having a crush on Joel, consider that he gave you a gift, of himself and his time. Open the gift, delight in the gift and in the receiving. Now look at what you responded most to, the most precious parts. This will help identify unmet needs that you have, or directions you would like to grow.<BR/><BR/>So sort out how much was Joel, and how much was the pleasure of having a person pay attention to you. Take the time to decide which itches still need scratched, and which were fun, but like a trip to Disneyland won't happen again this year. Then meditate to be sure you haven't overlooked anything, and to re-center your self and your thinking. <BR/><BR/>(I just noticed my music player is cycling through Berlin's 'Take My Breath Away'. I wonder what that means? And now 'You've Lost That Loving Feeling', Righteous Brothers. Go figure.)<BR/><BR/>If you want to re-direct energy, how about splitting it? Make a nice meal for the boyfriend (or some other gift he appreciates), and at the club, try to let others see how much joy you felt from your encounter with Joel.Brad K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/18378344866487206569noreply@blogger.com